Just to bring you up to date on our relationship, we met when I just turned 18 he just turned 26 was going through a divorce and had three small children! We have a pretty honest relationship and have spent all of our time together...wherever you see one you see the other pretty much! Its been 10 years now and No he wasn't jealous when we dated or during the first few months of our marriage. He didn't start showing his jealous side until after I had our first of three children, which was a little over a year into our marriage!
I mentioned earlier he has three children whom were very small when we met and I took them right in as my own and always have treated them as such even after he and I had three of our own. Of course their mom and my hubby share custody so we get them still very often and even they would tell you how close we are. I dont hang out with anyone I pretty much stay home 24/7 taking care of our children. Even so he still will come home from work, he works long hours, and will have it in his head that I have cheated on him. Its like its all he thinks about. I trust him completely so this is hard for me. I feel disrespected him not trusting me knowing the children are always by my side, hannah is 6, emily 4, and jordan is almost 2. For him to think I would cheat alone is horrible but to think that I would do it while our children are present is terrible!! What kind of person does he think I am? I know mny ppl say well he is prolly doing it so this is why he accuses you so much, but im not gonna say that is what it is until I feel like its a possibility. What do you think, why would he think this way? ALL THE TIME??? I am not exaggerating when I say im always home and I never talk to anyone else...this is true...his own family cant understand why he dont trust me, his mom, sisters, brother the whole FAMILY!!! I dont have a license bc 1. had them took due to fines, got the fines paid now, but its an issue every time I talk about getting my license. I have NEVER gave him any reason not to trust me WHAT SO EVER!!! if you knew me, you would be surprised he doesnt trust me!!|||Well... like you said people have already told you that he's like this because he's cheating because that is highly likely.... But you could also look into other things like his childhood... Did someone in his life hurt him like his mom leaving or divorcing?? Also it could have to do with the fact that he has already had one divorce and what was the cause of it? Maybe he is afraid of loosing you so he is just automatically trying to push you away. Maybe a love from the past cheated on him and it's effecting him now because that is VERY possible. No matter how hard it is to accept I would look more into some signs of him cheating. No it's not always cheating but that's what it sounds like he is doing... I recommend you reading a book called His Needs Her Needs By: William F. Harley, JR
That book has helped my relationship grow stronger my husband and I read it when we spend a LOT of time away from each other due to the service and it has made our marriage stronger... Good luck
MORE: Since your husbands ex wife did cheat on him that's exactly why he's acting this way... He probably has very low self confidence and is afraid of deja vu... You need to help him build his self confidence and trusting abilities...|||he sounds more controling then jealous...I would suggest marriage counciling to work out these issues.|||he knows how he feels after he cheated on you and cannot carry that burden...he is transferring it to you out of his own misery. This is very common.|||I would just hate it if my White Husband were actually this jealous! It would be no point to it. I do feel yours is jealous but who knows why. Male ego.|||Did he cheat on his ex wife or did she cheat on him?|||If as you say you have never gave him a reason not to trust you then I would say that someone has given him this idea. There could be several reasons why he is acting this way. Most of the time people do not mistrust their mate unless they have done something their self or the mate has.
If this is not possible then someone has given him this idea or it is a control issue.
To be honest with you though, a person does not think things like this unless they are guilty of doing it some time in the marriage or have at least thought about doing it.
The only other time a person would get jealous or mistrust is when you may be around other men and flirt too much or give your mate the thought that you would when you pay too much attention to another man.
No one thinks about their mate doing things unless they have a reason. It also could be that in his first marriage his wife did cheat on him and this of course would make him be concerned that you might someday since he works long hours.|||Men like to be protective of their women and it shows you how much they love you. But they have to control their emotions and not let it go out of hand. Most men can't be balanced and just be protective in general. Watch out for warning signs...red flags...black flags...etc.|||He seems to have some past issues that need resolving. It's best if you both went to see a marriage counselor. I'm sure you don't want your kids to grow up in such a stressful environment. Try to get his family to get him to go to counseling with you. Did you ever ask him why he acts like that? Lots of marriages break down due to poor communication and lack of trust.|||well i think it's because he can't believe how g0od you r ! i mean this life , this perfect life , this sweet wife , oh god it;s just like a dream ! and he is trying to fine something negative here ! with his pas experience he thinks any women cant be this much faithful ! so i guess you r too good that he can not believe it !
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